…and there goes one of the most popular and well-known lies of all time.
The truth is no matter how much we pretend that words don’t hurt, no matter how hard we try to forget words that people spoke against us, no matter how confident and positive we try to be, when people put us down with their words, it hurts.
You see, the most powerful part of your body is that little tongue inside your mouth. Because what you do with that tongue can damage or help a person more than you know.
It is what you say with that little tongue that has power to bring death or life to a person. (Proverbs 18:21)
That can ruin or make someone’s day.
That can make or break a person.
That can heal a hurt or hurt a heart.
Bruises on your body will heal.
Scars will fade.
But words that hurt your heart are hard to forget.
Words that bring you down are hard to recover from.
Words spoken behind your back about you are hard to forgive.
It really doesn’t matter where the words were spoken after they have been already said because the results are always the same.
How many times have you felt discouraged because someone judged you without getting to know you?
When someone spoke negatively toward you?
When someone said hurtful things behind your back?
We think words are so innocent and can be easily taken back, but they can’t be.
And yet so often we speak without even thinking.
We never take the time to realize how those quick little words we say can hurt a person.
How our inability to hold back unnecessary words, unnecessary gossip, unnecessary judgment can bring a person so much pain.
In Proverbs 31:26 we see a woman who is wise with her words – a woman who opens her mouth only when she has something good to say.
A woman who teaches others to be kind to one another.
A woman who uses her little tongue to bring healing to others, instead of pain.
To bless others instead of curse to them.
To build them up instead of bring them down.
A woman who knows that she will be accountable for every word she speaks so she thinks before a single word leaves her mouth. (Matthew 12:36)
Who spends less time gossiping about others and more time praying for them and encouraging them. (Ephesians 4:29)
She knows that words can hurt more than a knife can so she carefully chooses which one’s she will use. (Proverbs 12:18)
She knows that sometimes it’s better to keep her mouth shut no matter how tempting or juicy the gossip is that she wants to share. (Proverbs 21:23)
She knows that when spoken at just the right time her words can bring more healing to a broken heart than a cast can to a broken bone. (Proverbs 25:11)
So she learns to control that little tongue in her mouth lest it destroy the people in her life.
She learns to only open her mouth if what she says is wise and kind.
If what she says is helpful instead of hurtful.
And today you can do the same.
You can speak kindly to someone who is feeling down and brighten their day.
Or you can speak harshly to them and discourage them in their ways.
You can be that person who helps lift someones burdens with the words you say.
Or you can be that person that makes them feel even more burdened, discouraged, and weighed down.
You can be the person who hurts others with the words you say today or the person who brings healing.
Which person will you choose to be?
My challenge to you and I is to learn from this woman in Proverbs 31.
That just like her our words are spoken with kindness and wisdom.
That we will bring healing instead of hurt.
That we will learn to practice some self-control.
That we will make a positive difference in someone’s life today with the words we choose to say or the words we choose to remain unsaid.
May God give you the wisdom to know which one to do when.
Be blessed and use your words wisely today! Anna… ♥
“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” – Psalm 19:14
[From my Proverbs 31 Woman Series]