Something so unbelievably awful I couldn’t believe she had the nerve to utter it out loud.
She said six simple, yet profound words.
Words that no one has ever said to me before.
“Anna, you may never get married”.
Six words I didn’t want to hear, let alone believe.
I’m sure when I was driving home that night after meeting with her I shed a few tears.
Because of those six little words.
See… all of my life I have been taught all there is to know about getting married and what it takes to be a good wife.
From my parents, my church, and my older friends.
I’ve went to too many seminars in church that give you tips on how to date right, how to keep yourself pure before marriage, how to know who “Mr. Right” is.
But no one ever taught me about how to be single.
Because you see singleness… well that’s not supposed to be part of the “typical” person’s life plan.
It’s not part of the blueprint of everyone who has come before us.
The “normal” blueprint of life is to go to school, graduate with a degree, find a stable job, get married, have children, grandchildren, great-grand children…and then die happily.
So what happens when that’s not the blueprint of your life?
When you are 30, 40, or 50 and you still have no ring on your finger?
No children to raise?
No one to come home to at night?
When life doesn’t follow that perfectly scripted plan you created when you were 16?
The one that included finding that special someone to spend your life with?
The one where you have cute little babies to hold in your arms?
The past few weeks I’ve received countless of emails from women around the world.
From Asia, to Africa, to America.
Women in their college years.
Women in their late adult years.
And they all have one question they ask.
One question that I have no answer to.
“Where’s my happy ending?”
The one where we wear the white dress and walk down the aisle to the love of our life?
Start the journey in life with someone by our side.
And I wish I could say that all you need to do is wait a little longer.
Pray a little harder.
And Prince Charming will show up at your door.
But that’s not the truth.
The truth is yes, God’s Word says it’s not good for man to be alone.
But His Word doesn’t say that every single one of us will get married.
That we all have the same blueprint for our lives.
For some singleness is just a season in life.
For others it’s their whole life.
But regardless of what it is for you I have a challenge for all of us.
A challenge to stop asking “why” and embrace this season to the fullest.
A challenge to surrender your desires into God’s hands and know that He’ll take care of you.
Maybe you have no one to come home to at night, but you are never alone because God is always beside you.
Maybe you have no one to whisper “I love you” to but if you’ll listen quietly you can hear Jesus whispering it to you on the cross.
I know that in the end I will get my happy ending no matter what.
Maybe it won’t be walking down the aisle to meet my future husband but walking down the aisle to meet Jesus on His throne in heaven.
Yes, I would love for Mr. Right to come someday but I don’t live to get a wedding ring from a man.
I live to get a golden crown placed on my head by the King of Kings.
Your happy ending is coming too.
If not with a man who loves you here on earth then with a man who loves you more than you can imagine in heaven.
No matter what… you always have something to hope for.
Something to look forward to.
Singleness has its own set of blessings, just like any season in life but you’ll miss out on them if you keep asking yourself why.
God’s plan for you today is to remain single.
Maybe tomorrow His plan for you is to bring someone special along to join you.
But whatever that plan of His may be know that it’s perfect.
Hand tailored just for you.
Waiting to unfold if you just let go of your own expectations and plans.
I have no answer for you except for this: find your worth and your purpose in life not in a sparkling diamond ring on your hand and a man by your side but in the fact that you have Jesus in your heart and He is forever by your side.
And once you do that you can find peace and joy in life even when you don’t know the answers to all your “why’s”.
Be blessed and walk strong in Christ! -Anna… ♥
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Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!-Psalm 27:14