As Valentine’s day approaches I can’t help but want to write about the 10 reasons why the season of singleness is so glorious. The 5 ways to ensure that you are content with being alone. Or the 8 reasons why you don’t need a man.
But the truth is I DO need a man….
I need a man to complete me.
I need a man to love me.
I need a man to tell me that I’m beautiful.
I need a man to bring me worth.
I need a man who’s there on the hard days to tell me everything will be okay.
I need a man to share the deepest parts of my heart with.
I need a man to give me something to live for every day.
I’m not going to sugarcoat it or pretend I’m Miss Independent and got it all figured out on my own and don’t need anyone beside me because that would be a lie.
Because I need a man.
Not just on Valentine’s, but every day.
Every girl is on the search for her “perfect man”.
The one that’ll understand her in a way no one else can.
The one that will love her on her good and her bad days.
The one who will complete her in every way.
And so she keeps on looking for love… in all the wrong places.
Just like the Samaritan woman in John 4.
She is the perfect portrayal of so many young single women today.
She finds one man to love her, to validate her, to tell her she’s worth his attention and then when he’s no longer what she needs and she realizes he’s not Prince Charming she packs her bags and goes traveling.
Back on the search for Mr. Right once again.
And with each new man in her life she has hopes of a beautiful romance story.
Of a “happily ever after”.
Of a blissful future together.
But each one ends with disappointment.
Each one could satisfy her for a moment but then that moment would fade.
And she’d be back on her feet, looking for love again.
It wasn’t until Jesus met her at the well that she realized her search was finally over.
That she had found her perfect man.
The one that would love her unconditionally.
That would give her meaning in life.
That would complete her in every way.
Often times the problem with the search for true love is this: we look to find our worth in a human guy when we were first supposed to find it in only one man, Jesus.
We don’t think we amount to much until we first have a man standing beside us and telling us that we mean the world to him.
We don’t think our life can possibly be complete or happy without a Prince Charming and a wedding ring.
Yes, God said it’s not good for man to be alone.
But the truth is… you will never be alone when you have Him.
You’ll always have someone to talk to and share your life with.
You’ll always have someone to remind you of how beautiful you are.
You’ll always have someone to love you.
And the sooner we realize that the only perfect man we’ll ever find is Jesus the easier our life will be.
This doesn’t mean you need to “date” Jesus and claim Him as your Valentine this year. (That’s a little awkward).
It just means that you’ll stop searching for love and worth in all the wrong places.
It means you’ll share your life with the man who already meets all your desires and your needs.
And instead of chasing one man after another looking for the one that’ll make you happy… you’ll surrender your desire to God and allow Him to bring you to him.
And you won’t have sky high expectations for the man to fulfill because they’ll already be fulfilled in Christ.
So, just for the record don’t forget that this Valentine’s day… you need a man.
And if you search for Him at the right place, you just might find Him.
I’d begin by searching for Him on my knees.
And once you do your world will never be the same.
You won’t be alone, unloved, or incomplete.
Because you’ll discover who you are in Him.
And when the time is perfect He’ll send you the right man to share the rest of your life with, but until then remember… you will always share it with Him.
Be blessed and walk in love with Him!- Anna…♥
“So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” -1 John 4:16