Trust God In Your Good-Bye’s

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Last week I got my heart broken at a place I dreamed of for many years that my future husband would propose to me at.

It was unexpected and bittersweet, to say the least.

As I sat there at a loss of words to say all I could think was, “This isn’t how it’s supposed to be.

Have you ever found yourself in that place before? You may have thought that this was finally “IT”, whatever “it” may be for you. An answered prayer. An open door. A dream coming true. But instead, that dream got shattered.

Well, let me tell you. It’s not a fun place to be. And I don’t wish it on anybody.

Although I’d rather not open my heart to the world about it, I can’t help but do so, because if there is even one more person facing a heartbreak of any sort at this moment who will be encouraged by this it will be worth it.

People around me say I’m staying strong and handling it well but I’m just going through it the only way I know how, with Jesus.

Because I have learned that you may lose a relationship, you may lose a job, you may lose a dream, but you will never lose Jesus. He is with you every step of the way. In my heartbreak and in yours. And that’s a promise I have been holding on to dearly the past few days.

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. -Psalm 34:18

I have learned that when you are hurt or going through a hard time you are the most vulnerable to the attacks and lies of the enemy. And sometimes you need to do the complete opposite of what you feel like doing at the moment.

If you want to isolate yourself from others, make yourself go out with your friends.

If you want to lay in bed all day and be sad, go take a walk outside instead.

If you want to run from God and blame Him, run to Him and thank Him.

Don’t ignore your feelings or push them away. Facing them, processing them, and praying through them will only help you heal faster. But don’t let them steal your joy.

And if you must fall, fall into the arms of Jesus. If you need to cry, cry with your friends. Don’t try to go through this alone.

It will take time, it will take tears, it will take prayers. But you will move on.

This too shall pass.

Your prayer may remain unanswered at the moment, your dream may have been dashed, your relationship may be over, but your life is not. You may not know why things turned out the way they did, but you can trust God and if it wasn’t meant to be, it’s not His best for you.

And we all need to give ourselves a little bit more grace during the healing process.

When your heart gets broken or a person important to you is completely cut out of your life, you are not going to heal overnight.

You need to take it one day at a time, keep moving forward with your life, and do things that will help you such as: pray, read God’s Word, spend time with loved ones, go out in nature, journal, exercise, and make plans for the future to get excited about.

And as you keep moving forward, in time the pain will fade, your heart will heal, you will move on and be ready for the next chapter and new season God has in store for you.

This heartbreak is hard for my heart but it’s good for my soul because it brought me to my knees, and there is no better place to be. Maybe God did not orchestrate it, but He will surely bring good out of it.

“Pain and problems are opportunities to demonstrate your trust in Me. Bearing your circumstances bravely- even thanking Me for them- is one of the highest forms of praise. When suffering strikes, remember that I am sovereign and that I can bring good out of everything. Do not try to run from pain or hide from problems. Instead, accept adversity in My Name, offering it up to Me for My purposes. Thus your suffering gains meaning and draws you closer to Me. Joy emerges from the ashes of adversity through your trust and thankfulness.”- Sarah Young

It’s easy to thank God when He gives but I am reminded once again that God is just as faithful not only when He gives, but also when He takes away. When He answers how we want Him to, and when He doesn’t.

Right now, you may be in the middle of it all still, just like me. It’s okay to have doubts, fears, questions and pain. But know that with Jesus by your side you will get through it. My broken heart doesn’t have to break me, and it doesn’t have to break you.

You will be okay. And not just okay. You will be stronger, braver, and better because of it.     

It’s tempting for me to rehearse every little thing that I did and every word I said in the relationship to figure out what went wrong.

But instead of rehearsing that, I choose to rehearse God’s truth and promises for me instead.

When the enemy tries to steal your joy, distract you, and make you focus on what you can’t change, use God’s Word as your sword, as your anchor, as your guiding light. There is power, life, and hope in His Word. As you spend time with Jesus in His Word joy will be restored and healing will take place.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 4:6-7

If you are in a relationship that just ended, don’t lose hope.

Hand your worries over to Jesus. Share your desires with Him. Lay your requests at His feet.

And don’t worry about what your future will look like now. God has wonderful things in store for you. You may be a little broken today, but you won’t be here forever.

“Every blessing doesn’t come to stay. Every relationship wasn’t meant to last. God will send people into your life for a season because you need them in your life for a season. And if they walk away don’t stand at the tomb of what used to be and cry about what was, because if you would have needed them for the future they would have stayed.

You have to know when people’s part in your story is over. If they walked away it’s no accident. Accept it as the will of God. Dry your tears. Do your dance. And keep going.”- T.D. Jakes

Just because you are not going to share your future with that person you thought you might share it with, doesn’t mean you won’t share it with anybody. God is not done writing your love story.

This is a hard chapter, but it’s not the end of your story.

It may be the end of that person having a part in your life, but it’s not the end of love in your life. Keep on praying and trust that God is in control. Your future is still going to be absolutely incredible, just with a different person by your side.

 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;  in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” -Proverbs 3:5-6

When things don’t make sense, trust God.

When hope seems far off, trust God.

When that dream didn’t come to pass, trust God,

When that person is gone, trust God.

Even with tears still on your face and pain in your heart, trust God.

You may not understand why it happened, but you don’t need to. Hold on to the truth that Jesus loves you and He is for you. He can heal every broken heart and bring to fruition new dreams. He can redeem even the deepest heartache and make something beautiful come out of the hardest seasons of your life.

Bittersweet endings and broken dreams are not the end of you. And they aren’t the end of me. God will turn your tears into dancing. He will work all things out together for your good.

And even good-bye’s, hard as they may be, can be good at the end.

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” -Romans 8:28

I want to leave you with a beautiful song that I’ve been playing on repeat.

Listen to it. Sing it. Pray it. Whisper it. Proclaim it.

May it bring hope to your heart.

“When troubles come, and nights are filled with tears
I will fix my eyes upon the One
Whose perfect love, has conquered every fear
Hold me in Your everlasting arms

You are working all things for my good
When I cannot see it, God I still believe it
You are working all things for my good.”

If you are going through a hard time and need prayer, feel free to reach out to me (daughterbydesign@hotmail.com). As your sister in Christ, I would love to pray for you. Much love -Anna… ♥

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16 thoughts on “Trust God In Your Good-Bye’s

  1. Thank you for sharing Anna. I have been on my own journey of singleness and overcoming heartbreak. It is NEVER easy. This last breakup was tough as I was facing so many other losses in my life at the same time. But God moved FAST and literally 2 weeks after my breakup I met someone new who treated me so much better. He sees us and knows. Blessings as you continue healing and receiving His goodness in your journey.

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    • Hi Nicole, wow, what an incredible testimony of how God can restore a loss and turn a painful circumstance around so quickly. His timing and ways are perfect! Thank you for your kind words and story. It was such a blessing for me to read. May God bless you on your journey with Him as well. ❤️

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  2. Anna
    Thank you for sharing, praying God will enlighten you with answers if you so choose. But as you know God is in control always, He loves us, cares for us, and will never leave or forsake us. Praying this will pass, praying that God will bless you with an abundance of happiness and joy in your life.
    God Bless you.

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    • Thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement. God truly is in control in every situation and only does what is best for His children. Thank you for that reminder. May God bless you abundantly in every way as well!

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  3. Anna, so sorry for what you going through right now. I could say a lot but you are on the right track. You are holding on to God’s word and your hope and trust are in Him.

    What I will share though is what happened to me about a week ago. I have a friend and I like her a lot. So I thought it was time to tell her how I feel and go to the next level but she didn’t feel the same way. It was painful and I am still dealing with the pain today. But as the days have gone my resolve to trust God has been strengthened tenfold. God is faithful and He will complete and fulfill His promises. I am full of hope and know, know, know that God is in full control.

    God has everything in your life under control Anna (even the painful, confusing things). Things didn’t work out for you now but God is good and He is faithful. He will not abandon you.
    I will leave you with this verse,

    “Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful.”
    Hebrews 10:23

    He is forever faithful…..
    Blessings to you.

    Rolain

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    • Hi Rolain, thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad that as painful as it was, through it you have grown closer to God and your faith has only increased in Him and His promises. He surely is faithful, sovereign, and so good. I know He’s got it all under control for both of us and will bring growth and good out of the hardest things we face.

      The verse you shared is encouraging and something I will cling to tightly during this season. Thank you. Blessings to you! ❤️

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  4. I’m sorry that you’re having to go through this but I thank you for your faithful testimony ❤️ I also thank you especially for sharing such a beautiful song, I wasn’t familiar with it but I’ve now added it to my playlist. 🎧 I’m praying for you this morning 🙏

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  5. Went through this about four years ago. It felt like my world came to an end, couldn’t see a future. I could feel the pain physically in my heart. Had to force myself to get out of bed, go to work, stay in ministry, keep on smiling. In that time I began to search the internet for some kind of comfort and daughter by design was one of the blogs I found. Looking back I’ve come a long way. It made me stronger, made me seek the Lord more and cling to Him. Gave me more insight into people and relationships. learned to live by the day, step by step, not isolating myself. Sometimes it still hurts wondering if and when it will ever happen, but I’m still here, by the grace and love of our Lord.

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    • Hi Rachel, I’m so sorry that you were in the same place as I am four years ago. I am encouraged by your story and how you became stronger and grew closer to God in the healing process instead of turning away from Him as many others would be tempted to do during a loss.

      No relationship is a waste, even the ones that don’t work out as we would hope. I know God has a reason for everything and His timing is perfect, for you and for me. I am believing with you that He will fulfill your heart’s desire and bring the right man into your life at just the right time. He is a good Father and He will always take care of your needs as you faithfully follow Him. God bless you sister. ❤️

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  6. Thank you for this post. Although I know your post is maybe about a different type of broken heart, the end result with running to God is the same. I just lost my 24 year old son to a very unfortunate accident on the job but I am so glad to have Jesus or I have no idea how I would survive. Yes, I trusting him in my Good-Bye to my son but I know one day I will reunite with him again. Thank you again for this awesome post.

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    • Hi Angie, I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine how you feel right now. ♥ May God comfort you during this time and give you joy and peace in the way that only He can give until you reunite with your beloved son again.

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  7. Dear sweet friend, Anna
    it’s surprised me this morning I read your post. I totally miss your beautiful posts. How’s you doing? It’s a wonderful and strengthen post. Yes we will absolutely never loss Jesus. Hard times that happened in our lives is just a bend not the end. Thank you very much for this wonderful encouraging post. Keep pray for you. God Bless.

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    • Hi Karina, I have missed your beautiful posts as well! I’m hoping to get back into more consistent blogging soon. ♥ How have you been doing?

      Thank you for your encouragement and prayers for me during this time! I appreciate it so much.♥

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