I know today is your favorite day of the year.
There’s nothing you look forward to more than seeing everyone confess their love to each other all over social media.
That you just love walking into stores and seeing roses, chocolates and heart shaped balloons taking over the aisles.
That you just love the cliché things that people tell you during the holidays to help you feel better.
About how love comes when you least expect it.
About what a catch you are and how lucky some guy will be to have you.
And I know that you are tired of being a bridesmaid for the 158th time.
That going to weddings is just not your thing.
That you are sick of answering the questions people ask about that wedding ring that’s not on your finger yet.
That no matter how happy you are for your best friend who just met the man of her dreams, you have those nights when you cry to God and ask “why is that not me?”
That you know all about “being satisfied in Christ” and the 500 reasons of why this season is such an amazing gift.
That you’ve already figured out your options for “Plan B” which include saving hundreds of lonely cats, becoming a nun in a 3rd world country, or just getting by each day trying to figure out what to do next.
I know that you already have your Ben & Jerry’s waiting for you in the fridge for tonight along with your stack of romantic chick flicks.
I know that you can’t wait for today to be over and for tomorrow to start.
I know how you feel because I’ve been in your shoes many times before.
But there’s also something I have learned over the years that has changed it all around for me.
And it’s the fact that I get to choose how I will live this season.
I choose whether I will embrace it and use the opportunities that come my way that I wouldn’t have otherwise.
I choose whether I will be bitter or whether I will remain hopeful.
I choose whether I will see things on the bright side and keep on trusting God for my life or whether I will keep on asking “why not me” and cry myself to sleep.
I choose whether I will look at others who are in love and be bitter that I don’t have that yet or I can choose to be content in the truth that God knows best and at the moment that’s not His plan for me.
I read so many blogs by girls who complain about their single years and it breaks my heart because that’s not the way life has to be.
You are the one who determines whether having a ring on your finger defines you.
You are the one who determines whether or not having a man by your side is what gives you worth.
You are the one who determines whether you will embrace this season of your life, or waste it foolishly.
I know it’s hard.
I know you have many unanswered questions and unfulfilled dreams.
I know you want someone next to you to spend your life with.
I know you may feel alone but singleness is only a lonely road to walk on if you make it so.
And my challenge to you is this: don’t allow it to be.
Don’t allow it to be the defining point of your life.
Don’t allow it to shatter your dreams and steal your joy.
Don’t allow it to make you lonely and bitter and mad at the world.
You don’t have to pretend that it’s easy or that you like it but you can embrace it, you can grow through it, and you can trust God in it.
Today, stores filled with heart shaped balloons and instagram updates of people receiving chocolates and roses don’t bug me.
I have no Ben and Jerry’s waiting for me at home tonight.
I have no reason to cry myself to sleep.
Because I know who I am in Christ.
And the fact that not having a man next to me doesn’t define me.
I know that just because I’m off on that timeline I planned in my head when I was 15 doesn’t mean I’m off on God’s.
I’m exactly where I need to be.
I know that it’s not a ring on my finger that determines how loved I am but a man that hung on a cross two thousand years ago.
I know that in Christ I am 100% complete.
And you can too.
Don’t be discouraged today just because life didn’t turn out like your 3rd grade fairy tale.
Don’t give up on yourself, on life, and on God because you got no roses sent to you today.
Instead turn to His Word and read John 19, the greatest love story ever told.
It’s the one about the man who left heaven to pursue you.
The one about the man who suffered to show how much you mean to Him.
The one about the man who died on a cross to spend eternity with you.
I don’t know about you… but that story alone is enough to convince me that I am worth more than my relationship status and the presence or absence of a wedding ring.
Today, stop focusing on what you lack and start focusing on what you have in Him: the greatest friend and love you will ever need.
Just because this chapter in your life doesn’t include Mr. Right just yet never forget that it’s just one chapter. You have many more to go before your story ends.
Trust God to write the one that’s perfect for you when the time is right… and today instead of indulging in ice-cream and fairy tales choose to celebrate the fact that you are complete in Him.
Be blessed and walk in love with Him!- Anna…♥
“Stop waiting for love and start living. There are many stories your life is meant to tell. Finding love is just one chapter.”- Mandy Hale