Image via.It’s amazing how a total stranger can walk into your life and within a week, a month, or a year you couldn’t imagine living a day without them in it.
And then it’s just as amazing that a friendship that took a decade to build can just crumble and never be the same and all that remains is dusty photographs and old memories and that friend that was once so dear to your heart becomes a stranger once again.
If there is anything I’ve learned about friendship over the years it’s that you never know what will happen when a person first walks into your life.
You never know if that person will become your best friend or just an acquaintance.
And you never know how long they will stay or on which fateful day they’ll walk away.
You don’t know if you should trust them with your heart, mind, and soul and then regret it one day when they leave and you have to let them go.
You just don’t know.
I used to hate the uncertainty of people who come and go during different seasons of my life.
I’d keep my walls up high, never daring myself to be too open, too vulnerable, share too much of myself with someone not knowing if they would even stick around till the end.
What’s the point of creating new friendships and relationships when you don’t even know if they will last?
What’s the point of sharing life with someone for just a season only to have them leave at the end without looking back?
Those were the questions I wrestled through in my mind many years ago as I faced a new prospect for a friendship or relationship.
And the question in my mind was always the same: “Should I or should I not step into this… and how will this end?”
I remember during my young teenage years we held a Missionary Bible School at our church over the summer and there would be over 40-50 people coming from all over the states to this school.
Every summer it was the same story.
I would meet tons of awesome people my own age. People that went from being strangers to friends in a short span of time.
We’d get to know one another, bond with one another, go on fun trips together, have amazing times of prayer and fellowship together, grow in Christ together… and then lo and behold, their three months were over and back to their homes they’d go and with them went that friendship that we had so carefully built.
We’d stay in touch for a little bit but then with time, that friendship slowly slipped away.
Nine months later summer came along again and with it came a new group of Bible School students to meet.
New friendships to build.
New memories to make.
Repeat that for a few years and it starts getting old.
A few years ago when one group came I was no longer even excited to meet them.
What was the point of building new friendships that wouldn’t last past the following three months?
But then I remembered my friends from the years before… the friends who’s faces and names all blend together in my mind.
I remember the good times we had.
The memories we made.
The things I learned from them during that short period of time that they were in my life and I realized… it was worth it.
It was worth it to build those friendships that didn’t last.
To make those memories that might soon be forgotten.
To share life with new people, even if it was for just a short period of time.
Each friend I made taught me something special and brought something new into my life.
Each friend influenced me in one way or another, sometimes in a big way, sometimes in a small way.
And whether or not those friends would stay in my life in the future didn’t make such a difference to me anymore.
They played an important role in my life during that moment and if that’s all the time God let me have them for then it was worth it.
I’ve come to learn that some people are meant to stay in your heart, but not in your life.
Some people come into your life and stay for good.
Others just stop by like a timely guest, never overstaying their welcome, leaving before you get too comfortable.
And I’ve come to terms that it’s not the end of the world to have people in your life for just a season.
That’s just the way of life.
Some people in my past that influenced me greatly and that I couldn’t imagine not always holding a special place in my life I have not seen in days, months, and years.
I have learned to just be grateful for the times that we shared in the past.
And it has also gave me a fresh perspective and makes me appreciate my present.
After all I will never know how soon a friendship I thought would be “forever” will just end.
I don’t know how soon some people will just slip away from my life whether for a period of time or for good and I need to enjoy the people in the moment that I have instead of wish for the people in my past to regain that role in my life and take up the space in my heart that they no longer have.
But the time they have shared with you and the lessons they have taught you will leave an imprint on your life and in your heart forever.
Never be too scared to step into a relationship because of the fear of the unknown and because you don’t know if it will last forever or one day come to an end.
The difference they make in your life will be worth it.
The truth is you will never know exactly how a friendship with someone will unfold the moment they step into your life.
And you won’t know how long you have with them before their time is up.
Sometimes you get them for forever.
Sometimes you get them for a season.
So learn to appreciate them, love them, and build memories with them but also learn to hold them loosely, after all you don’t know when it’ll be time for you to let them go.
And never run after anyone who is walking away because maybe they are no longer meant to stay.
Thank God for the relationship you had and the lessons you learned along the way but don’t keep on hanging on to people who are no longer there.
Even if the relationship didn’t last forever it was not a waste because it taught you lessons that will last a lifetime.
Close that door and start making room in your heart for someone else to walk in – because when you are ready and the time is right God will send a new friendship your way.
“Don’t worry about the people in your past, there’s a reason they didn’t make it into your future”
Be blessed and remember to cherish your old friendships as well as be open to new ones. Have a blessed day! Anna… ♥
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