Image via.You’ve already planned all the details to your “big day” in your head.
From the dress to the colors to the decoration.
As the date draws closer you get more and more excited for the day you’ve been dreaming of your whole life to finally arrive.
The day you marry the man you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.
Except that a few weeks before the wedding he calls you out of the blue and says he doesn’t want to go through with it.
He thought he loved you but he didn’t.
Your heart is shattered, your dream comes crumbling down, and you remain alone, heartbroken, and confused.
How could this have happened to you?
How could you heart be so full of love, so full of joy, so full of anticipation one day and then in just a moments time it’s filled with pain, with questions, and with sorrow as your world turns upside down?
How could the man you thought you would spend forever with just call it quits and walk away?
And where is God in all of this?
The story may seem dramatic.
But it’s a variation of so many different stories that I have had one girl after another email me about.
Stories of heartbreak.
Stories of loss.
Stories of pain.
Each one of them has a different story, but the ending is the same.
Whether it was a cancelled engagement, a painful break-up, or the love that never came.
It’s a story of a girl in love until the day her heart breaks in a million pieces because that love decided to walk away.
When I hear your stories my heart breaks a little with yours.
I wish I could give you a cookie-cutter, perfect answer of why the man you loved walked away.
I wish I could take your tears away when you cry yourself to sleep every night wondering what went wrong.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make all of your pain go away.
But that’s not going to heal your heart.
It won’t answer your questions.
It won’t bring him back.
And it won’t make everything okay.
But there are a few things I do want to tell you.
Things I want you to hold onto during your tearful nights and your lonely days.
First, it’s not your fault that things turned out the way they did.
There’s many things you can control in this life but you can’t control how another person thinks, acts, or feels.
Don’t for a minute think that you did something wrong, because even if you did, if the man truly loved you he would have worked it out with you not walked away.
Second, it’s hard to believe it at the moment but God loves you and He always has and always will only allow things to happen in your life that are for your best.
Even if at the moment it hurts.
Even if at the moment the last thing you want to do is to run into His arms and cry out to Him for help.
Why He allowed someone in your life for just a season instead of the lifetime you hoped for I don’t know.
But God thinks the man belongs in your past now and not in your future.
He has something else in store for you and for some reason he won’t belong in it.
Even if he seemed perfect.
Even if you thought everything was falling into place.
God didn’t allow him to walk away to punish you but to prepare you for something else.
He loves you enough to remove anyone from your life that doesn’t align with His purpose for you and it’s up to you whether you will trust Him enough to know that this heartbreak, as painful as it is at the moment, is for your best.
That even though you don’t have that man next to you today to hold your hand, you will always have the man next to you that holds your heart, and He won’t give yours away to anyone that isn’t your “forever”.
Sometimes God allows heartbreaks to draw us closer to Him.
To give us an opportunity to trust Him in the valleys of our life and to have faith in the unknown future that lies ahead.
This chapter of your life is full of questions and pain but never forget that it’s just one chapter.
It’s not the end of your story.
And every day you get to choose whether you will continue re-reading what happened in the past or turn the page and step forward into the future with Him.
And remember that it’s okay to take your questions to God.
It’s okay to be upset.
God doesn’t expect you to pretend you’re fine when you’re not.
He can take your questions, your confusion, and your pain.
He wants you to run to Him and hand all of it over to Him.
He wants you to let everything that’s on your mind and heart out.
He is a loving father who is there to listen, to comfort, to wipe those tears away and to bring joy, hope, and peace back into your life again.
It is in the hardest moments of your life that He is the closest. (Psalm 34:18)
It’s when you think He’s the farthest away that He is standing right there with arms open wide, ready to comfort you and lead you on your way.
“Never give up. Ugly endings can lead to beautiful beginnings. And sometimes the most beautiful chapters of your life will be written following the most broken ones”.
Your broken heart won’t heal overnight.
Your questions will still remain.
But today you can trust that God has a better plan.
And in time your tears will dry, your heart will be whole once again, and the future will look bright and hopeful because you know you are walking it with Him.
God will never leave you brokenhearted and alone to fend for yourself.
Turn to Him when the ground underneath you is shaking and He will hold you still.
Surrender the boy and the plan you had in your head of your future with him and trust that if that wasn’t God’s plan for you then there’s something else He has in store for you because He isn’t finished with you yet.
Life will go on.
Maybe slowly at first.
Maybe with shaky steps and tears still in your eyes.
But you will learn to love again.
You will have hope again.
You will have joy again.
And the heartbreak will just be a memory in your distant past.
A memory of lost love… and a memory of found hope in Christ once again.
Keep holding on to Christ, when it’s the darkest is when you need Him most. He will help you start a new chapter with Him. Be blessed. –Anna…♥
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” -Jeremiah 29:11