And quite honestly, the idea of it scares me just a bit.
But with much prayer and thought I have finally made my decision.
I am going to have a prearranged marriage.
Before you think I have fallen off the deep end let me explain what I mean.
I don’t mean that I am sending my parents out to scout out potential young men for me to marry (although I’m sure they already do that on their own). 😉
I don’t mean that I have signed up for e-harmony so that the matchmaking professionals can discover my “perfect match” online (although that would be interesting.)
What I mean is that I have handed over the responsibility of finding my future spouse to the Father in my life who knows what’s best for me.
I remember listening to the story that an Indian pastor was sharing of how his parent arranged the marriage of him and his wife.
They went from one small village to another and asked the people in the villages to point out young girls to them that had good characters and morals, who were believers, and who came from good families.
And then they would do research on them.
They would go to the teachers of that particular girl and ask how she behaved in class.
They would go to the friends of the girls and ask how kind, how friendly, and how honest she was.
They would go to the parents of the girls and asked about her interests, her hobbies, and her desires.
And then they decided whether or not she’d be a good fit for their son. (E-harmony, old-fashion style) 😉
The son had to trust that his parents found the girl who suited him best.
The girl that he could learn to love and cherish through all the ups and downs of life.
The girl that he could spend the rest of his life with.
Was it scary?
But the truth is, who would know better than him who he would want to marry?
Who from the moment he took his first breath and walked his first steps wanted nothing more than the best for him?
And the reason why he could trust them to make one of the biggest decisions in his life is because he knew they would only choose for him someone they believed he could make it in life with.
And the same is true for me.
To be completely honest, I have often been reluctant when it comes to totally surrendering my own will to God when it comes to my future husband.
I want to make my list of “husband must have’s” and hold on to it tight.
I think no one in this world knows better than me who could possibly be right for me.
But that’s not true.
God knows better than I ever will who the best man for me is.
Just because a man seems like a good fit for me today, just because he has the same interests as me, just because he has the hairstyle and eye color that I want doesn’t mean that he’s a good fit for me in the long run.
I can only make my decision based on what is right in front of me, but God? He sees the future and the plans that He has for me and He knows which man will be best by my side to fulfill those plans.
And He knows which man won’t.
I’m not going to lie, so many times I’ve thought “God, how about this one? He checks off on every item on my list. Or what about this one? I can totally imagine serving you with him.”
And God says “no” each time and it’s hard for me to understand why.
But just like that Indian man who trusted his parents to choose the right girl for him I trust my Almighty Father to choose the right man for me.
The man who I can serve Him side by side with.
The man who will help me grow closer to Him.
The man who will be better than any man I could have chosen for myself.
I love what Frank Powell says about searching for the perfect spouse:
“What if God does not want you to find a perfect person but find an imperfect person who will draw you closer to Him? What if God desires you to marry a person with flaws to expose yours? What if God wants to teach you the value and life found in committing to one person forever, not exhausting pursuit of searching your entire life to find the perfect person?”
So I give up on searching for the perfect man that fits the description of my version of Prince Charming from when I was sixteen.
I already have an Almighty Father in Heaven who’s got it under control for me.
And when the time is right He will show me the man who will best fit not my own plan, but His.
If you are praying and waiting for your future spouse today keep on trusting God to bring the right person your way.
Don’t wait for the perfect Prince Charming to come sweep you off your feet (he doesn’t exist) but don’t settle for someone who you don’t have peace from God about either.
Allow Him to be the matchmaker of your life, not your own self.
Because your feelings could fool you and your understanding is limited, but His is not.
He knows what’s best for you and He’ll bring that man or woman along when the time is right.
Until then… rest in peace knowing that you are in good hands.
Your matchmaker is working behind the scenes to orchestrate the love story of your life.
Be blessed and keep on trusting God for your future! -Anna… ♥